A Church of Three Strands

A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braded cord is not easily broken.
— Ecclesiastes 4:12, NLT

We all operate by this basic principle, don’t we? When we have to face something that feels difficult, scary, or we just downright don’t want to do, we rope someone else in to be there with us. Whether it's going to get those tests results from the doctor, remodeling your house, or let’s face it, swim suit shopping, we feel better, more at ease, more confident if we have a friend with us. We are innately designed not only to be in relationship, but to be supported and strengthened by it.

And there is just no earthly relationship that is worth more than your marriage. No one can sharpen you, defend you, or support you like your spouse. But unfortunately, the inverse is also true: no relationship can be so damaging as a marriage gone wrong, because no one else will ever know you at your most vulnerable.

Marriage is hard, isn’t it? The Bible doesn’t say a ton directly about marriage, but what it does say sets a pretty high standard. “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,” and, “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.” Commands that I think would pretty easy if we weren’t all struggling with our own sin natures.

But these commands set the stage for that cord of three strands. We will sacrifice constantly for our spouse – something we can only do as we cling tightly to Jesus – and they will in turn sacrifice for us. We will always have one another’s backs as we seek God together. We won’t be easily broken.

And that is so worth fighting for, pressing on for, not giving up on. Let us not give into the lie that a good relationship is easy and that it flows naturally. Rather, let’s taken an honest look at the situation and realize that there are no perfect people – only sinners being transformed by His grace, and let’s allow our marriages to be the places of greatest transformation. And let’s do that together – as the church – encouraging and strengthening each other in love, so that we are all built up stronger and more rooted in Him.

At Not Easily Broken Ministries this is our deepest desire: to support the church – that’s you! We want to not only offer premarital and marriage guidance face-to-face with you, but even through something like this blog.

In the coming months you’ll hear from Paul and myself as we share some of our journey with you, as well as some of the resources that have been helpful to us along the way. There will be posts from guest authors who have journeyed longer and farther than we have. This will be a place to encourage one another to always press on and dig deeper into what God designed the marriage relationship to be. Together let’s be a church of three-stranded cords: not easily broken.